A man’s 22-year-old son, Adam, had his world turned upside down when he discovered that the man was not his biological father. The man was equally shocked but wanted to continue to treat Adam as his son, but this all changed when Adam became distant and unveiled a controversial decision.
An Outrageous Admission
The revelation that Adam was not the man’s biological son came two years ago when the man’s wife, Tori, confessed that she had cheated. The man took a paternity test, which revealed the true father of Adam as the man Tori had recently had an affair with – Chris.
A Painful Backstory
To make matters worse, this affair had a painful backstory. “Tori and I were trying for kids and found out that I was infertile”, the man explained. “We decided we’d adopt, then about 4 months later she became pregnant. I was thrilled because I thought maybe the doctor made a mistake, but I was wrong – she had just cheated on me and I didn’t find out until 20 years later.”
A Painful Divorce
Following the revelation of infidelity and the confirmation of Adam’s true paternity, Tori and her husband divorced. The emotional toll on Adam’s father was substantial, as he grappled with the betrayal and the shattering of his long-held belief that Adam was his biological son.
Connecting with His Biological Father
Upon discovering the identity of his biological father, Chris, Adam expressed a strong desire to meet and bond with him. This was accepted by his parents and over time, their relationship grew stronger, leaving the man feeling increasingly left out and hurt.
Distant From His Father
Adam began to withdraw from his relationship with his adoptive father. “It’s been like this for almost a year and a half”, the man lamented. “We used to do stuff every other week but it’s been completely different since he found out about Chris.”
Changing Priorities
Adam’s distance became even more apparent when the young man switched his major from Economics to Computer Science without informing the man for a year. It seemed as though Adam was increasingly isolating himself from him, the man who had raised him.
Expressing His Pain
Unable to bear the emotional distance any longer, Adam’s father confronted his son about the hurt he was experiencing. “He apologized and said he’d do better, but he never did”, the man explained.
The Final Straw
The breaking point came during a phone conversation when Adam revealed his intention to change his last name to reflect his biological father’s. Adam’s adoptive father, devastated by this decision, expressed an ultimatum: if Adam changed his last name, their father-son relationship would end.
A Drastic Decision
Adam hung up the phone after this ultimatum, and his adoptive father, standing by his words, chose not to reach out again. He firmly believed that the last name change symbolized the end of their father-son relationship, regardless of Adam’s age.
Mixed Opinions
The man was distraught and didn’t know where else to turn but his loyal online community. He posted his story and initially received unwavering support. “This whole post just hurt my heart, man”, cried one reader. “I’m really sorry you’re having to go through with this. What an ungrateful son.”
Adam Should Be Grateful
Many readers echoed the sentiment that Adam was being ungrateful. “Adam is 22, not 13 – it’s time to start being grateful to parents”, another reader stated. “He is acting very cold and immature.”
Expressed Doubts
However, to the man’s dismay, many people believed that he had purposely evaded vital details. “How the hell did your relationship with the son you raised deteriorate so bad in two years, that he has reached out to this other guy as a father figure and even wants to take his name?”, questioned one critic. “Your story doesn’t make sense.”
It’s Adam’s Decision
Regardless of whether they believed the man or not, many people told the man to let it go. “It’s a shame that your relationship deteriorated like that but he is an adult and clearly he is choosing Chris over you”, one commenter pointed out. “You can’t force him into maintaining your father/son relationship.”
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