The man’s friend recently started inviting a Mormon man to hang out with them, but when the man discovered some of the racist ideology, he refused to hang out with him. Is he in the wrong?
The Friends Hang Out Regularly
The man described the situation, “I have a group of friends who hang out regularly, we go out to get dinner together and hangout at each other’s places often.”
His Friend Invited a Mormon Man
He explained, “Recently one of my friends started bringing over a Mormon guy and he is a devout Mormon, and likes to talk about his religion often.”
He Researched Mormonism
After researching Mormonism, he discovered its racist ideology. He added, “It describes brown people as being brown because they are cursed as sinners. I, as a brown person, want nothing to do with someone who subscribes to racism even if it’s only part of a greater religion.”
They Had a Discussion
The man spoke to the Mormon friend about these racist ideologies. He explained, “He said it’s true and didn’t deny it, but it doesn’t mean all brown people are bad now, but they come from a bad history.”
The Friend Group Took Sides
He told his friends that he didn’t want to be around the Mormon man and most of his friends took his side. He added, “The girl who invited him didn’t, and I have told her that if she doesn’t think that racism is a serious issue, I don’t know if we can continue this friendship.”
He Clarified His Opinion
The man explained, “I think that in the west, Mormonism is so common that people are desensitized to the fact that it’s a racist ideology in plain sight, and from having ex-Mormon friends I know this.”
He Also Stated
“I was told by two of them that Mormons, during missionary training to convert others, are told to avoid these ‘sensitive subjects’ and pretend it’s not true until someone is already convinced of the religion and then slowly tell them about it.”
Was He in the Wrong?
Was he wrong to refuse to hang out with the Mormon friend? Should he have handled the situation differently?
He Turned to the Internet for Advice
One user said, “His response was inherently racist. Your friends obviously don’t understand that racism affects you directly and they should be more understanding towards your feelings.”
Another Person Commented
“It is very hard for a Mormon to not have issues with racism, and misogyny as well. These things are baked into their religion, practices, and texts.”
Someone Gave Their Opinion
“You’re not refusing to hang out with him because he’s Mormon. You’re refusing to hang out with him because he’s racist.”
Another User Shared Their Perspective
“I think you gave him sufficient space to disavow these racist beliefs and he did not do so – you are under no obligation to hang out with him.”
Another Person Said
You sound like a bigot. Faiths don’t represent people as a whole – you’re generalizing to fit your bigoted ideology. I’ve met Mormons that are Korean. My friend of over 10 years is Muslim and I call his father Uncle.”
Another person responded to this comment
“Don’t you think you’re being ironic calling HIM a bigot here?”
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