A Woman Saved $100 K Each for Her Twin Sons to Attend College, but After One Died the Other Asked for His Money Too, Was She Right Right or Wrong to Deny Him?”

A 58-year-old woman had always been a devoted mother to her twin sons, Thomas and Sam. The woman and her husband had set up college funds for the two boys, but due to the tragic death of Sam, only Thomas made it to college. Unfortunately, this new financial situation led to even further difficulties for the family. 

Thomas’ Death

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The summer after their high school graduation, both Sam and Thomas were preparing to apply for college, excited at the prospect of their tuition fees being fully covered. Unfortunately, tragedy struck when Thomas was killed by a drunk driver. “I can’t begin to explain how broken I was,” the woman cried.

Financial Realities

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Before the devastating loss of his brother, Sam had already secured an offer to attend an Ivy League school. However, the cost of his education far exceeded the $100k his parents had saved for the young man. 

A Request for Financial Help

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Less than two months after Thomas’s passing, Sam approached his mother with a request. He asked if he could access the $100k that had been set aside for his late brother’s education. The request, though financially pragmatic, struck a raw nerve in her heart.

A Mother’s Anguish

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The woman’s emotions overwhelmed her, and she reacted strongly. “I lost it on him,” she recounted. “I told him that it was Thomas’ money and not his, and it deserved to go to Thomas. He didn’t get a cent of it.”

Charitable Choices

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In contrast to Sam’s request, the woman and her husband donated all of the money meant for Thomas to various charities devoted to preventing drunk driving, a cause close to their hearts in memory of their lost son.

Sam’s Success

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Ten years later, the woman proudly announced that Sam had achieved great things with his college degree. “He’s so young and already a very successful lawyer,” she beamed. 

Sam’s Finances

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The woman continued to explain how Sam managed to handle the complicated financial situation without Thomas’ money: “He took out student loans, but he’s nearly paid them all off now. He achieved this mostly on his own, although we did give him an additional $50k for his tuition fees in the end.”

Reopening Old Wounds

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However, the woman explained how recently, Sam had brought up the decade-old dispute once again: “I thought we were past it… he said how unfair it was for me not to give him Thomas’ money, and how difficult his debt had been to deal with. We had a tearful argument over it, and now I just don’t know what to think.”

A Mother’s Regret

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With the dispute raised once again, the woman grappled with the question of whether she had made the right decision 10 years ago. She pondered whether, if given another chance, she would still withhold the money from Sam. 

Was She a Bad Mother? 

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After giving it some thought, the woman came to her conclusion. “If I could go back in time, I still don’t think I would give that money to Sam… does that make me a bad mother?” she asked.

Seeking Validation 

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In search of validation, the woman posted the story of her and Sam’s dispute, asking social media users what they thought. Unfortunately, she did not receive the validation that she was hoping for. “Why would you tell your son that the money deserved to go to his deceased brother?” asked one frustrated reader. “How does that make sense?”

Sam Was Grieving Too

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Many readers pointed out how the mother acted as if she was the only person affected by Thomas’ death. “I’m sorry for your loss back then, but your living son was grieving too,” someone pointed out. “You could have supported him financially. Surely, Thomas would have wanted that money to help his brother?”

Awful Wording

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It was impossible for readers not to sympathize with the woman, but they emphasized her handling of the situation had been awful. “Your son wasn’t selfish asking for the money, and you were not selfish for denying him,” one commenter stated. “However, the way you worded it was awful. You should sit him down and apologize for the way you reacted back then.”

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