A 27-year-old woman worked within a small team of five, and one of these team members, Ava, was pregnant. The co-worker’s pregnancy soon led the woman to find herself in a moral quandary that she didn’t want to be a part of.
Limited Maternity Leave
Ava faced a challenging situation due to pregnancy-related complications. With only six months of paid maternity leave available, her early bed-rest orders put her in a financial bind.
Ava’s Complicated Pregnancy
Ava had been ordered by her doctor to be on bed-rest due to a challenging pregnancy. She had exhausted her paid sick leave, and her financial situation was strained, given that she and her husband were renters. Their income was vital for the next five months until Ava could officially start her paid maternity leave.
Request for Assistance
The team’s boss requested assistance from the woman and the others to help Ava out of her conundrum. However, this quickly escalated into a dispute about responsibilities and personal sacrifices.
The Boss’ Request
The woman explained her boss’ request. “We cannot do our work remotely, so to enable her to work remotely, we will have to dedicate hours of our work time to working on behalf of her physically and gathering the info she requires. We will have to work additional hours, and our company doesn’t pay overtime.”
A Divided Team
The team consisted of individuals with families and children, except for the woman, who was considered to have fewer responsibilities. They collectively requested the woman to take on the additional workload, arguing that it was the right thing to do to help Ava.
She Politely Declined
However, the woman was not happy to accept this new fate. “I said no”, she explained. “I sympathize with Ava, but she made a decision to have a baby and I cannot work extra hours every day to help her.”
The woman proposed a solution: if everyone pitched in to help Ava, they would all have to work fewer extra hours. However, the colleagues continued to cite their own families and responsibilities as obstacles to providing assistance. The woman, standing firm, asserted that she too had her own life commitments, and it was irrelevant that she didn’t have children.
Seeking Managerial Intervention
Faced with a team divided and unwilling to help Ava as a collective effort, the woman brought the issue to their boss’s attention. The boss decided to hire a temporary replacement for Ava, avoiding the need for the team to take on extra work.
Despite the conundrum now being solved, the woman’s colleagues believed that she had acted inconsiderately. They felt that it shouldn’t have been necessary to hire a new staff member just to cover Ava and that it wasn’t too big of an ask for the woman to step up.
The woman was shocked by her colleagues’ accusations, firmly believing that the new hire was an ideal solution for everyone. She decided to share her story on an online forum, hoping to receive validation from internet strangers. “It’s very unreasonable to expect you to work for free every day for the next five months”, agreed one commenter, amongst many others.
Many commenters accused the woman’s colleagues of being incredibly entitled. “Entitled parents are the worst”, one reader stated. “You 100% did the right thing, and eventually so did your boss. Obviously, he was hoping not to have to hire a temp, but that’s a management issue.”
Everyone was unified in believing that the woman’s colleagues were being hypocritical considering they refused to step up, too. “I have zero respect for people who just expect someone to pick up all the slack when they aren’t willing to do the same”, a commenter wrote. “What makes them think you’re up for working overtime when they refuse to do the same?”
Non-Parents Have Lives Too
A common opinion in the thread was that it was ridiculous that the woman was expected to step in for Ava just because she didn’t have children. “It doesn’t mean you don’t have responsibilities and a life outside of your job”, someone stated.
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