An eighteen-year-olds grandparents saved up a college fund for him, and he was offered his dream place at Oxford University upon graduating high school. However, his half-sister thought he should go to an American university, as he could receive financial assistance and give her the fund so she could use it. Here is what he had to say:
He Was Offered a Place At His Dream University
The man said, “My dad died before I was born, my mom remarried and had my half-sister, who is 17, with her new husband. Last year, my grandparents (dad’s parents) let me know they had been saving a college fund for me, and over the years have saved a substantial amount. This year, I applied to colleges, and got into my dream school, Oxford in England.”
Going There Would Wipe Out His Fund
The man clarified that he was American, and therefore was not eligible for most forms of financial aid in England. Therefore going to Oxford would wipe out most of his college fund. On the other hand, he had also gained admission to top universities in the US, like Berkeley, UCLA, and Cornell, each offering generous scholarships and financial aid that would make attending them very affordable.
His Sister and Mom Thought He Was In The Wrong
He thought long and hard about his options but knew that Oxford would bring him closer to his long-term goals and fulfill a lifelong dream. However, his sister and mom were not pleased with his decision. They believed he should choose a more affordable option and give his college fund to his sister, who lacked the grades to earn scholarships and needed financial assistance to attend college.
But He Disagreed
But the man didn’t see why he should give up his dream and the college fund that his grandparents had saved for him. He felt that his sister’s college expenses were not his responsibility since they were not blood-related. Moreover, he believed everyone should be accountable for their academic achievements.
He explained what happened next, “She confronted me, calling me selfish for refusing to help her out, saying I’m making her sacrifice her dreams of going to college. I pointed out she was doing the same thing, asking me to give up my dream.”
He Spoke To Friends And Family
Seeking advice, the boy talked to friends and family members. Some empathized with his sister’s situation, understanding her need for financial assistance. Others supported his desire to pursue his dream at Oxford, recognizing the significance of individual goals and aspirations.
He Wasn’t Sure What To Do
The boy grappled with mixed emotions, torn between his dreams and his sister’s need for financial aid. He wanted to help her, but he also believed in the importance of chasing his own aspirations.
He Came To A Decision
In the end, he realized that it was essential to have open communication with his family. He decided to have a calm and honest conversation with his sister and mom, expressing his love for his family while also explaining his reasons for choosing Oxford. He acknowledged his sister’s struggles but stressed the significance of personal responsibility in achieving one’s goals.
Was He In The Wrong?
As the family conversation progressed, emotions ran high, but the boy remained steadfast in his decision. He listened to his sister’s feelings and concerns, and he asked his mom to understand his desire to fulfill his dream. However, he explained that “my sister called me selfish. I think she’s at fault here because she failed to do what she needed to in order to achieve her goals and is now asking me to make sacrifices for her.”
The Internet Responded
One person said, “Your grandparents saved it for you. Which is very sweet of them. I do feel sorry for your sister that she hadn’t had the same luck. But honestly.. don’t pass up the opportunity of going to Oxford – I don’t know about the American universities but Cambridge is pretty fantastic so I assume the same applies to Oxford congrats btw!”
Another Person Commented
“Why do your sister and mother assume that you could even give your sister the money? Legally, the money belongs to your grandparents. If you don’t use it, the money stays with your grandparents. The decision to share that money with your sister is up to them.”
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