A man wanted to know whether he had gone too far in installing a lock on his daughter’s bedroom door. He had nieces living in his home, and they were taking his daughter’s possessions without her knowledge. Here is what he had to say.
The Brother-In-Law Moved In
He has a brother-in-law, Sammy, who found himself without a home after a divorce. Sammy and his 18-year-old twin daughters, Olivia and Sloane, moved in with him and his wife several months prior.
He Has a Daughter
They also had a daughter of their own, 16-year-old Zoey. Zoey and her cousins were not particularly close, but they got on well for the most part.
The Brother in Laws Daughters Did Not Respect Zoey’s Privacy
However, the real problem lies in Olivia and Sloane’s complete disregard for Zoey’s privacy. They brazenly invaded her room, taking anything they could lay their hands on – makeup, phone accessories, clothes, even her school laptop.
He Asked His Neices to Be More Mindful
He had pleaded with Olivia and Sloane to respect Zoey’s privacy but they continued to ignore him. Sammy and the man’s wife seemed unperturbed, dismissing this as typical teenage girls’ behavior. He, however, disagreed.
Zoey’s Makeup Kit Was Used without Permission
The situation escalated when Sloane appropriated a makeup kit that Zoey had saved up for a month to buy. Upon discovering her ruined kit, Zoey was distraught.
The Brother-In-Law Did Not See This as A Problem
The Brother-in-law reacted dismissively as he exclaimed, “My daughters aren’t thieves! It’s normal for girls of the same age to borrow each other’s stuff.”
The Brother-In-Law Made a Negative Comment
The brother-in-law further suggested that Zoey was inappropriately trying to appear older than she was, and that her mother should correct this “defect” in Zoey’s personality.
The Brother-In-Law Made a Suggestion
Accusing him of being overprotective and enabling Zoey, the brother-in-law opined that Zoey could replace the expensive makeup kit with a cheaper version from Walmart.
He Installed a Lock
To safeguard Zoey’s belongings, he installed a lock on her door, much to the frustration of the brother-in-law and his daughters.
His Wife Suggested He Treat the BIL Better
His wife condemned him for this action, believing it was alienating her nieces and undermining the familial bond he was supposed to have with them. She demanded, “You are supposed to treat them like daughters” and insisted he remove the lock.
He Insisted that The Lock Stayed in Place
However, he stood his ground, asserting that the lock would remain until Sammy and his daughters left their home.
His Wife Was Angry
His wife was angry with his implied suggestion of expelling them from the house, fearing her family would develop hatred towards him.
He Argued No One Else Showed Compassion Towards Them
To this, he retorted that he was the one who allowed Sammy’s family to move in when her own family refused, countering, “if it wasn’t for her family’s unwillingness to help we wouldn’t be dealing with this much disturbance at home.”
The Tension in The House Was Palatable
Since the incident, silence has been evident in the house. His wife was visibly upset, and everyone seemed to give him and Zoey the cold shoulder. He began to wonder if installing the locks had gone too far, so he sought advice from the internet.
The internet responded:
One user said, “NTA. Don’t back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife’s. I guarantee she won’t appreciate sharing anymore.
Another Person Commented
“NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a “defect” in her personality for buying an expensive makeup kit, that’s the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.”
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