He Often Went Hiking With Family, And His Aunt Suggested He Invite His Obese Cousin – Was He Wrong To Exclude Her Due To Safety Concerns?

A man has recently been making a more conscious effort to reconnect with his family, which included inviting family members on hikes with him. However, he recently discovered that this seemingly selfless act actually had the potential to worsen relationships with some family members.

Reconnecting With Family

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Through his efforts to reconnect with his family, he noticed that some family members resented his mother, which had previously distanced him from them. However, now that he was an adult, he felt himself to be in a position to mend these strained relationships.

Hiking as a Bonding Opportunity

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The man was passionate about hiking, and there was a specific mountain that he had been eager to conquer. To make it a family affair, he decided to invite his cousin, Sarah, who shared his love for outdoor adventures.

Expanding the Hiking Group

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Sarah enthusiastically accepted the invitation and suggested bringing another cousin, Jeffrey, who’s also a hiking enthusiast. Despite not being particularly close with Jeffrey since childhood, the idea took shape, and the hiking group now consisted of eight members, all reasonably fit and in good health.

Inviting Cousin Jessica

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The man’s aunt proposed that he should add his other cousin Jessica to the hiking plan. She emphasized that it would be a beneficial experience for her, as she didn’t get out and about a lot. 

The Man’s Concerns

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However, the man expressed concerns about this: “Jessica isn’t in the best shape, and hiking this particular mountain might be hard for her because of her weight and health problems (her knees and back often hurt)”.

A Safety Risk

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The man elaborated on his reasoning. “I didn’t say this to her, but if something happened, none of us would be able to carry her back to a car because she’s around 300 lbs.”

Agreeing to Keep Quiet

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Thankfully, everyone agreed that this was indeed a safety concern. They decided not to mention the trip to Jessica, as they felt it was unnecessary and didn’t want to hurt her feelings.  

Loud Mouth Aunt

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Unfortunately, the man’s aunt ran her mouth, explaining to Jessica why she was being excluded. Naturally, this caused Jessica to feel hurt and rejected; her self-esteem took a hit, and she became increasingly distant.

Apology and Justification

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Recognizing Jessica’s emotional turmoil, the man extended an apology to her but reiterated their concerns regarding her physical fitness for the hike. Instead, the man offered that they could spend a day at the beach together someday soon, but Jessica firmly declined.

Jessica’s Reaction

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To the man’s dismay, Jessica’s emotions overflowed, and she started posting on social media about perceived discrimination against overweight individuals. She asserted that the world was prejudiced against those with weight issues, hinting toward her recent exclusion from the hiking trip.

The Internet’s Verdict

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The man posted about the conundrum online, asking a forum whether he had acted poorly by excluding her. Thankfully, everyone took his side, believing his safety concerns were completely valid. “You had a perfectly reasonable explanation”, one person defended. “Sadly, your aunt probably twisted your explanation when speaking to your cousin.”

Safety Comes First

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One commenter posted a highly relevant anecdote: “This reminds me of a story about a girl who wanted to go on a waterslide at a waterpark. The weight limit was 200lb and she weighed 205lb. The father took to social media chastising the park for embarrassing the girl and not just letting her go on the ride. Sometimes safety is more important than feelings.”

The Aunt’s Fault

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Almost everyone agreed that the man did nothing wrong, but most people felt that someone else was to blame. “You acted out of consideration and safety, so you did nothing wrong”, one person started. “However, your aunt was awful for telling her the reason for her exclusion.”

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