A woman is left questioning her decision when she refuses to pay for her boyfriend’s meal on his birthday due to her moral values. Here’s what she had to say:
She Thought They Had a Good Relationship
The woman explained, “I (18 years old) have been dating my boyfriend, John (20 years old) for a little under a year. We have a pretty toxic-free relationship but there’s quite a bit of tension when it comes to me being vegetarian. I’ve been vegetarian since 11 and I have very strict morals around it.”
Apart From One Thing
The tension mainly came from her refusal to spend her money on meat products. The woman had made this commitment ever since she had started earning her own money. On their dates, they typically split the bill, apart from the occasional instances where John paid for everything.
She Made Her Position Clear
She had told her boyfriend that if he ordered something vegetarian, she would gladly cover both of their meals, but he never did. The woman explained, “When he pays for my food, it’s when I’ve spent money on the activity. Normally concerts and festivals. That’s me paying €120+ on tickets and him spending maybe €50 on food.”
He Ordered A Steak
It had recently been John’s birthday, and they decided to eat at his favorite upscale restaurant. He ordered the most expensive steak on the menu, accompanied by a side salad and a bottle of wine. After they finished their meals, she requested the bill to be split, which surprised John. He asked if she was joking, and she told him she wasn’t.
She Stuck By Her Values
He told her that she should pay since it was his birthday and claimed he hadn’t budgeted for the meal. Confused, she questioned why he expected her to pay when she had clearly stated her rule of not spending money on meat, but he couldn’t provide a valid reason other than it being his birthday.
And He Stormed Off
She offered to cover the cost of the wine and the side salad but insisted he should pay for the steak. This infuriated John, and he stormed off to the bathroom in anger. She paid for her portion of the meal, including the wine and the salad, and waited for him to return. However, he never came back. After waiting for 20 minutes, she decided to leave.
He Was Angry
She eventually found him sitting on a bench near their parked car. She asked why he had left and reminded him that he needed to pay his share. He appeared shocked by what she said and questioned whether she had paid. She confirmed that she had paid for everything except the meat, leading him to explode in anger.
John started yelling at her, calling her selfish and telling her to grow up. Despite his outburst, she remained calm and reiterated that he needed to go back and settle the bill. John then scoffed and walked away. Frustrated, she ended up driving home without him.
Was The Woman In The Wrong?
Afterward, John blamed her for not being able to show his face in his favorite restaurant, as he had left without paying. The restaurant is relatively small, making it highly likely that he would be recognized and asked to leave. The woman was left questioning if she was in the wrong.
The Internet Responded
One person said, “Ignoring the vegetarian stuff, who orders the most expensive steak possible and then expects their partner to pay for them without having checked prior. And then storming off to the bathroom expecting that to pressure you into paying for it. I hope you can see all the huge red flags here.”
Another Person Commented
“He thought he had you trapped into paying for meat. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your boundaries.”
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