His Parents Funded His Education, But They Hadn’t Told Him They Expected Him To Fund His Sister’s Ivy League College Fees – Was His Refusal Justified?

A young man, aged 21, was studying at college without financial burden thanks to his parents paying off his college fees. However, he would soon find out that this promise came with strings attached. 

His Dream College

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The man had grown up with the promise from his parents that they would be funding his dream college education. The college of his choice was far away and expensive, yet his parents had reassured him that they would still cover the financial burden. 

First Class Flights 

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While pursuing his degree, the young man had to endure a four-hour flight followed by a two-hour bus ride to travel between his new college and his family home. To his surprise, his parents consistently booked first-class flights for him, adding to the growing list of what he believed were acts of kindness.

The Shocking Revelation

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One day, during a phone conversation with his parents, a bombshell was dropped: “My parents told me they expected me to pay for my sister’s education when she goes to college”, the man explained. “With our age gap, my sister would be studying by the time I graduate with my post-grad studies.”

The Strings Attached

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The young man was stunned. He had never heard about these expectations before. Paying for his sister’s education hadn’t even crossed his mind. If he had known earlier, he might have made different choices about where to study, perhaps opting for a more affordable institution.

His Sister’s Dream College

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To make matters worse, the sister’s dream college was not cheap. “She wants to attend expensive, prestigious Ivy League universities, so taking loans for my own education would have been a better financial decision as opposed to paying for hers.”

A Firm Stand

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The man’s response was not what his parents wanted to hear. “I told my parents there was no way I was paying my sister’s college tuition”, he recounted. “I asked if she would at least be expected to pay me back half of what I spent on her education, and they said no.”

Accusations of Favoritism

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The son suddenly realized exactly what this agreement meant. “There aren’t any other younger siblings for my sister to pay for, so clearly my parents were favoring her.” The man confronted his parents with this realization during their phone call. 

Sibling Favoritism

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To his shock, the parents openly admitted that they favored the younger sister, calling her the “baby of the house.” They questioned the older sibling’s love for his sister and defended their stance by claiming that helping her have a good life was the responsibility of a good brother.

The Final Verdict

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In the end, the young man was left in a moral quandary. He needed help understanding why he was now expected to fund his sister’s education when he had never been informed of this prior commitment. The tension between him and his parents escalated, with harsh words exchanged and accusations hurled.

A Brother’s Dilemma

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The young man now faced a choice that had serious implications, regardless of what he decided to do. He would either have to honor his parents’ expectations and ruin his financial future, or assert his independence and risk ruining his relationship with his family. 

The Internet’s Verdict

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The young man headed online with his conundrum, asking members of an online community for their advice. “I felt like I was in the twilight zone reading this”, laughed one reader. “It is bizarre logic that should’ve been discussed when you were picking a university.”

Crazy Parents

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Everyone agreed that the man’s parents’ logic was bizarre. “Are your parents loons?”, another person accused. “Why would they assume you can even pay for your sister once you graduate? That’s a lot of money. You can start applying for loans and tell them to keep their stupid strings-attached tuition.”

Some Unfortunate Advice

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Sadly, the community’s advice was frank but realistic. “You should stop accepting any more financial support from them than necessary and tell them to use the savings to fund your sister’s education”, someone suggested. “That should include you applying for student loans, getting a job, looking for a funded advanced education position, and not accepting first-class flights.”

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