17 Things Men Hate About Being a Man but Keep to Themselves

Men often face societal expectations to embody strength, both physically and emotionally. This weight of expectations can create immense pressure, causing men to suppress their emotions. An internet survey recently asked, “What’s the one thing you hate about being a man?” Here are the top 17 answers:

Being Completely Invisible

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“It can be an advantage. When I want to, I can go about my day in peace without interruptions from anybody. And sometimes, you want to slip into the background and be anonymous. But at the same time, nobody asks you how you are doing, if you need help, or acknowledges that you exist. If you have problems, you have to deal with them and get over them. On the plus side, you get good at problem-solving, but it can sometimes be mentally tiring and demotivating.”

“I talked with my wife about this a few years ago, and she found it very weird and sad. After that, she started to say something positive occasionally to the people she worked with. The first time she did, it was one of her closest coworkers. He was completely dumbfounded by it. He knew it was a friendly compliment very well, but he said he didn’t know how to handle it. Because he could not remember the last time something like that had happened.”

Baldness

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“I miss having hair to run my fingers through. I grew it out in my teen years because I knew I wouldn’t have it for the rest of my life. I miss playing with it, I miss the warmth and the cooling ( short hair actually acts as cooling fins compared to being bald and sweat just pouring off), I miss the sense of it being blown in the wind, I miss the slight protection against bumps and scrapes (cabinets are the bane of my existence).”

“People underestimate the physical comfort of having a full head of hair. Everyone tells me I look great with a shaved head, and they do not have to suffer with an exposed scalp.”

The Automatic Assumption that I Know About Mechanics, Carpentry, and Diy

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“I noticed this with my dad. Everyone assumes he knows what he’s talking about regarding mechanics or DIY stuff. Still, he has no idea, so he comes to ask me or my mom because he’s utterly clueless, but no matter how much he tells people, they keep coming back to him.”

“I don’t want to be that guy, but you should learn about those things regardless; you’ll not only save a few bucks fixing your own stuff but, generally, being self-reliant and capable will change your outlook. One of the best things I learned to do was fix my car because it gave me the confidence to learn to fix other things.”

People Assume that I Can Turn Off My Anxiety and Depression at Will

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“And if you fail to do just that, you risk being seen as weak and treated even more poorly.”

“That’s one thing for me that I hate. I basically have to power through my negative feelings because everything will go wrong if I don’t. And then my friends and family wonder why I have vulnerability issues.”

My Son Is Generally Excluded from Things Like Park Meetups or Birthday Parties Because, Apparently, I Don’t Fit in With the Other Parents

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“I’ve been told it a thousand times in a thousand variations. They mean I’m a man, and moms don’t want me around because it’s generally just moms. I’m a single dad.”

“I always feel uncomfortable being the only man at most kids’ meetups. They don’t explicitly tell me I’m not meant to be there, but they make it known in other ways.”

Lack of Emotional Support

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“People take it as anger when you voice frustration and get upset.”

“Either that or the idea that you just don’t have any problems in the first place. I’ve dealt in the past with an abusive ex-girlfriend stalking me, and when I bring it up to people, they look me up and down and say, “..your girlfriend… is stalking you?””

Being Expected to Romantically Initiate

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“My issue is that I just really like having friends, and I’d rather just exist with people I platonically love without ever accidentally making stuff weird by making a move. The amount of apparent missed opportunities in my life is insane, according to many guy friends.”

“It doesn’t work properly because women like to drop hints and whatnot, and most times, we don’t understand those hints, leaving both parties unsatisfied.”

I Must Be Swift as The Coursing River

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“Li Shang gave me unrealistic expectations for men from age 10.”

I Never Feel Like I’m Desired

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“Also, I’m stuck in a rut right now where I feel like I have to be there for everyone, but none is there for me. Although it’s a lonely feeling, I try to combat it by making changes little by little.”

“Most men will receive their first flowers at their funeral.”

Prostate Cancer

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“The risk of prostate cancer is significantly increased by smoking. So you know, protect your prostate, don’t smoke.”

“On a related note, the perception that prostate cancer is not a big deal because “eventually all men get it.””

Men’s Fashion

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“I’ve had no luck finding anything I like, and all my current clothes are very plain.”

“People almost expecting me to dress horribly is a total godsend.”

Unintentionally Scaring Women and Kids

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“I was sitting in my car waiting for my wife. The owner of the car next to me came out to get into her car, saw me, and hurriedly jumped in and locked the doors. I was wondering why she was acting so scared.”

“I was eating my hotdog in a desolate 711 parking lot before heading to work. A lady pulls up and parks about three spots down. I glance in her direction and notice her giving me the stink eye. I sat there for about 15 – 20 minutes. Then noticed that as I pulled off, she finally exited her vehicle.”

Tons of Pressure to Lead, Earn, and Provide

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“I put this pressure on myself more than anything else. I know it isn’t good, and I should be easier on myself, but I can’t break out of it mentally. Sometimes, it crushes me, especially when things aren’t going well financially. No amount of my partner saying it’s ok makes it go away.”

“It can feel so hard being “the rock” of the house when all you want to do is crumble.”

Having to Kill the Spider

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“I’m terrified of spiders, but so is my wife. If she finds it first and gets scared, I somehow bravely come over and can dispose of it easily.”

“Don’t kill them; make them your housemates. Spiders are cool.”

People Think It’s Creepy that A Man Likes Children

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“I just love them because they are innocent, and their minds are so creative. I love playing with them because I’m still a child.”

“I love kids. I was a mailman; somehow, people felt less scared of me interacting with their little ones. I guess the uniform helps.”

A Broke Mom Is Trying Her Best; A Broke Dad Is a Deadbeat

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That encapsulates everything, in a way. Underperforming in any area is not tolerable if you’re a guy.”

“As a father myself, I do feel this to be true. Society has no patience for the failure of men.”

I Can’t Give Women Compliments without It Being Viewed as Flirting

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“This doesn’t bother me as a woman. It’s nice to be told you look nice sometimes.”

“This is more about word choice. While it may not convey exactly what you mean, saying something they’ve done looks cool is more obviously not a pick-up attempt than saying something looks nice. Like, at least you’re complimenting specific choices they made.”

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THE PRINCIPAL TOLD HER TO ‘SHOVE IT’ WHEN SHE ASKED IF THEY COULD STOP THEIR STUDENTS BLOCKING HER DRIVEWAY, SO NOW SHE’S THE ‘UNSTABLE’ NEIGHBOR AFTER CALLING THE POLICE

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A woman’s new house was across the street from a school. She had no complaints until a student blocked her driveway, but when the woman asked for help, the school principal told her to ‘Shove it’.

THE PRINCIPAL TOLD HER TO ‘SHOVE IT’ WHEN SHE ASKED IF THEY COULD STOP THEIR STUDENTS BLOCKING HER DRIVEWAY, SO NOW SHE’S THE ‘UNSTABLE’ NEIGHBOR AFTER CALLING THE POLICE

A WOMAN MADE HER BOSSES MILLIONS, BUT WHEN SHE LEFT FOR ANOTHER COMPANY DUE TO MISTREATMENT, THEY BEGAN INTIMIDATING HER WITH THREATS OF LEGAL ACTION

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An employee shares her experience of being mistreated by her boss after putting in her notice, leading to intimidation tactics and a call to the legal office, ultimately resulting in her quitting and finding a better job.

A WOMAN MADE HER BOSSES MILLIONS, BUT WHEN SHE LEFT FOR ANOTHER COMPANY DUE TO MISTREATMENT, THEY BEGAN INTIMIDATING HER WITH THREATS OF LEGAL ACTION

SHE WAS THE CHILD OF AN AFFAIR, HER WEALTHY ABSENT BIOLOGICAL MOM DIED LEAVING HER A FORTUNE, NOW THE WOMAN’S FATHER AND STEPMOM WHO ABANDONED HER DEMAND A SHARE

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A girl explains how she was the product of an affair between a married man and a wealthy woman. Her mom didn’t want kids but agreed to keep her if her dad took full responsibility for her. She never felt wanted in her new family, and when she inherited her mom’s substantial estate, she was left in a precarious position.

SHE WAS THE CHILD OF AN AFFAIR, HER WEALTHY ABSENT BIOLOGICAL MOM DIED LEAVING HER A FORTUNE, NOW THE WOMAN’S FATHER AND STEPMOM WHO ABANDONED HER DEMAND A SHARE

“I DON’T WANNA ASK PERMISSION TO USE MY OWN DRIVEWAY!” THIS MAN’S BATTLE TO ENFORCE HIS BOUNDARIES AGAINST INCONSIDERATE NEIGHBORS LED TO A SHOWDOWN WITH THE POLICE

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Jack’s repeated requests to his new neighbors not to park in front of his driveway fell on deaf ears, leading him to call the police and enforce his boundaries more strictly.

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