A 21-year-old woman named Vicki would soon be celebrating her friend’s birthday, and she had been excited about the party for weeks. However, her plans were soon complicated significantly due to a friend and her conservative religious views, which ultimately led to a bitter friendship drama.
Jen’s Conservative Background
Jen’s conservative religious upbringing was evident in her life choices. “She doesn’t drink, she doesn’t go to parties, and she hardly even swears”, the woman explained. “She still hangs with us though, and we get along even though our lifestyles are very different.”
The woman appreciated Jen’s friendship but explained that her presence could be awkward at times: “If we go to a bar, she just sits there and whenever someone offers her a drink, she refuses, so people start looking at me like ‘why is she even here…?’ She acts happy but it’s obvious she’s uncomfortable, but she stays I guess to hang with us.”
Religious Social Media Posts
Another source of occasional discomfort for the woman is Jen’s tendency to share her religious beliefs on social media. While the woman respects Jen’s faith, she admits to occasionally feeling overwhelmed by her conservative views.
The Birthday Celebration Dilemma
The pivotal point of the woman’s dilemma occurred when her friend’s 21st birthday arrived. The woman’s friend decided to celebrate at a bar, inviting their entire friend group. This meant that Jen was invited, and the woman could already foresee her awkward position in the bar setting.
‘Cancelling’ the Celebration
The woman decided that it would be for the best to uninvite Jen. However, to spare her friend’s feelings, the woman told a white lie, explaining that the entire celebration had been canceled.
The woman was happy to discover that Jen responded positively, explaining that she was relieved as she wasn’t feeling up for it anyway. The woman felt that this was a win-win, believing the issue to be resolved.
A Successful Celebration
The woman headed off to the supposedly canceled birthday celebration and had a fantastic time. She asked her friends not to take any photographs of her throughout the night, as she didn’t want Jen to discover that she had lied to her. However, one friend clearly didn’t get the message.
The Social Media Revelation
The next day, Jen confronted the woman, upset about discovering pictures of the birthday celebration on social media. Much to the woman’s dismay, one of her friends had posted photos of her enjoying the night, despite her request.
An Unexpected Reaction
“She was really upset, asking why I lied to her”, the woman recounted. “I asked her why she cared because she didn’t even want to go, but she said I shouldn’t have lied to her anyway. She then proceeded to give me the silent treatment when I tried to explain.”
The woman’s other friends also weighed in on the matter. They labeled her as cold-hearted, urging her to apologize. The situation left the woman grappling with whether she was in the wrong or if Jen’s reaction was excessive, given that she initially openly expressed her unwillingness to attend.
Seeking the Internet’s Verdict
The woman headed online to confess to her actions, asking the internet whether they thought she had truly been in the wrong. Unfortunately, that was exactly what they thought. “You obviously don’t like Jen, so do her a favor and drop the ‘friendship’”, criticized one reader. “The fact that you are embarrassed by someone who doesn’t drink is childish.”
“Re-read your post”, suggested another. “It sounds like you’re mad at her for just breathing. You didn’t say anything about her pushing her beliefs or complaining about what others were doing so you’re just making up stuff to be made about. Who cares that she doesn’t drink? Spend some time thinking about why you’re so angry and what you need to do to adjust your anger.”
One reader expressed their sadness for Jen. “Jen clearly values your friendship more than you value hers. She is willing to spend time in bars despite not drinking just to be with you and her friends, but I’m sure you wouldn’t accompany her to Church just to spend time together in the same way.”
An Immature Attitude
To the woman’s dismay, everyone felt that her attitude was immature and inconsiderate. “Your whole post screams ‘You can’t have fun unless you drink’… you’re in the wrong here, and you owe Jen an apology.”
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