A lady was friends with a woman named Holly, a devoted Disney enthusiast who had always dreamt of a fairy tale wedding. Holly was soon to be married, yet her innocent dream would soon spark a significant controversy. Here is what she had to say:
Holly’s Dream
Holly envisioned herself as a glittering, glamorous princess in a ballgown, surrounded by bridesmaids who would embody Disney princesses in a modern way. Her upcoming summer wedding meant that this dream could finally become a reality.
The Colorful Line-up
For Holly’s wedding, she had a distinct plan in mind. “Holly has chosen Ariel (pink), Cinderella (blue), Belle (yellow), Rapunzel (purple), and Tiana (green)”, Holly’s friend and future bridesmaid explained.
Assigning Her With Tiana
The bridesmaid continued to explain Holly’s decision, including her own personal assignment: “She picked who would be who for us, and told me that she wants me as Tiana since I have black hair”.
A Mismatched Dilemma
However, the friend took issue with being assigned to dress like Tiana. “The problem is, I’m white, and Tiana is not”, she explained. “The entire bridal party is white. You can see why I’m not feeling this choice.”
Seeking a Resolution
In an attempt to address her concerns privately, the bridesmaid approached Holly with alternative suggestions for characters with green attire, like Merida or Anna. Unfortunately, Holly dismissed these suggestions, citing Merida’s dress color and Anna’s association with the Frozen franchise as reasons for their unsuitability.
Taking a Stand
Feeling uncomfortable with the choice and unwilling to compromise on her principles, the bridesmaid firmly informed Holly that she would not portray Tiana at the wedding. She offered to consider other options or wait for Holly to provide an alternative, but this did not sit well with the bride-to-be.
The Heated Exchange
Holly’s reaction was not what the bridesmaid had hoped for. Holly resorted to name-calling and accused her friend of being a bad friend and troublemaker for not going along with her vision.
Facing Criticism
The bridesmaid soon began receiving messages from Holly’s family and friends, questioning her stance and accusing her of disrupting Holly’s plans. Some fellow bridesmaids even expressed their frustration, urging her to go along with the original choice.
Standing Firm
Despite the mounting pressure and criticism, the bridesmaid remained resolute in her decision. She believed that her feelings and concerns were valid, and she didn’t want to compromise her principles or perpetuate a stereotype.
Questioning Her Choice
However, the pushback that the bridesmaid received made her second-guess her stance. She wondered whether she was making too much of a fuss over what others considered a minor issue.
Asking the Internet
The bridesmaid-to-be headed online with her conundrum, writing it up on a community forum for the opinions of others. To the woman’s surprise, everyone believed she was blowing things out of proportion. “I don’t think anyone would be offended if you were dressed as Tiana unless you wore blackface”, one person wrote. “I’m assuming she doesn’t want you to do that.”
Virtue Signalling
A lot of people commented that the bridesmaid’s virtue signaling was the real problem here. “To be honest, I think it’s worse that you’re making such a big deal out of this”, one reader stated. “It really comes off as virtue signaling, as anyone would tell you that it’s okay to dress as a character from a different race as long as you are respectful.”
Opinions From a Black Person
Even black community members defended Holly’s plans. “I’m saying this as a black woman… you are overreacting”, one member wrote. “If she was asking you to do blackface or something else offensive then I would back you but wearing a modern take on her dress… you can chill out…”
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